No SHOULDA, WOULDA, COULDA

No SHOULDA, WOULDA, COULDA

Years ago, I adopted a policy, so to speak. I attempt to abide by it on a daily basis, and I try to pass it on to my boys. I've taught it to anyone I thought would benefit. After sharing it with a sibling, I realized this might be one of the most important posts I will ever put on this page.

NO SHOULDA, WOULDA, COULDA.

I'll explain.

• "I would have tried to get better grades if I realized how they would have affected my future."

• "I could have prevented the house fire if I hadn't been out partying the night before."

• "I should have slowed down on the drinking and I would have been able to be more aware and that assault would not have happened."

• "I would have told him/her how I felt if I had realized how short their time with us (would be."

What did I just accomplish there? Absolutely nothing.

We can't go back. We can't change anything that is already done. We can learn from each event and use it to better our lives moving forward.

Are any of those statements true? Maybe. Maybe not.

How do I know that any of those events would not have transpired exactly the way they did, even if I had done something completely different? I don't. All I am doing by playing the shoulda, woulda, coulda game is wasting time and energy. So why do it?

Every single one of those events is a lesson. Each lesson has made me stronger. People look at me funny when I say I have no regrets. I don't believe in having regrets.

Everything I have said, done, seen, or experienced has made me exactly who I am

today, and I am who I am for a reason.

So...

NO SHOULDA, WOULDA, COULDA.

Learn the lesson, move forward, and make the future better and brighter for you and everyone around you.

Toodles, Noodles.